Hello friends.
I’m sure everyone gets angry at least once a day and even twice or more for some; but what is really important is not what makes you feel angry but rather how you handle your anger.
When I say “put yourself together”, I mean calm down and take control over your emotions. If not for the sake of people around you, do it for yourself, for your own sake.
We all know someone who is super annoying, and sometimes we want to smack right in his face when opens his mouth but you try to keep yourself from striking. This is a common situation, extremely troubling for over reacting, impulsive, violent people but also for kind and quiet ones.
Being able to take control over anger is extremely difficult, frustrating, complicated but so much interesting.
First of all, let me give you 3 tips I use when I encounter such situations. I mean when someone really get me out of control.
1- Leave. Leave the place, the conversation, or wherever/whatever you are in. When you are in a space with person getting you angry in the middle of a talk, just stop and get out of the place. Nicely and quietly, without screaming or slamming doors; just leave and tell the person that you are not comfortable with the tone, speech or actions, and that you will continue the conversation when the air will be safe. That’s it!
2- Try to do something else. Meditate, walk, or even take a nap. Do whatever you like but just don’t be inactive. You have got to do something that will keep your mind busy and help you lower the pressure of the anger; and
3- Get ready. One thing is sure, you can’t avoid a discussion but you can prepare yourself for when things turn bad. So, instead of arguing in a bad conversation, rather prefer continuing it another day; it may be the day or the weekend after. Postponing the discussion will give yourself more time to calm down and get ready for what’s coming next.
I used to be a really impulsive person. Then I find out I was not helping myself by reacting to anger with more anger. What is interesting in learning to take control of your anger is what you learn about yourself. You can be more empathetic with yourself and with others, and you can be much more willing to understand and tolerate. Anyway, it is totally up to you.
LOVE!!!